They say that once you grow up you should write about things that concern the realities of adulthood. Like: love and heartbreak. As magical as the feeling of being in love is, it’s converse, heartbreak is gut-wrenching. We know that tremendous courage is the prerequisite for opening your heart and soul to someone. The very fact that we let our walls down and let go of a giant guard that kept the doors of our heart shut is a sign of intense valour. It is these things that keep us tied physically and emotionally to a person.
Like a traveller passing through a long, never-ending desert, heartbreaks can leave you feeling turned inside out. We tend to internalize the rejection, question ourselves, wonder whether we’re even worthy of love or somehow if it is us who is not capable of sustaining a relationship. It is like a giant hole has been drilled in your heart which no amount of chocolates, wine or Netflix can repair.
I think I can say with pretty solid confidence, most people would rather get smacked in the face with a metal pole than get their hearts broken and that’s why at every cost, we try to avoid it. But for how long can you do that? If only there was an answer to this question.
Now here’s a little secret, these feelings of angst, dejection, remorse are all universal. Whether you’re a guy or a girl, straight or gay, Asian or American, the aftermath that is brought by a heartbreak is omnipresent.
But just because it is universal does it mean we have to keep suffering? Does it mean that you have to keep wallowing in self- pity? NO. You can begin by accepting. Now, accepting doesn’t mean you need to go out on a limb and talk to family and friends or your local bhajiwala. Talking isn’t always a solution, not everyone is going to empathize and as an average Indian, talking to your family is out of the question. So how do you take the first step of acceptance and begin the process of healing?
Do wine and chocolates help? Yes, they do but they come at a cost: your health. So what should you do? Here’s where we call the pros in: WRITERS.
Rudyard Kipling was a hundred percent right when he said,
“Words are, of course, the most powerful drug used by mankind.”
So now that we have found a healthier solution, to mend our broken hearts, we turned to some of the pros on social media who give voice to our misery and help us accept as we sail through this desert.
1. Beau Taplin (Instagram- @beautaplin)
R. M. Drake (Instagram- @rmdrk)
3. Warsan Shire (Twitter- @warsan_shire)
4. Christopher Pointdexter (Instagram- @christopherpointdexter)
5. Lang Leav (Instagram- @langleav)
6. David Levithan (Twitter- @loversdictionary)
7. J. Raymond (Instagram- @j.raymond)
At the end of the day, you need to decide what’s holding you back from getting over that initial train wreck. Is it the fear of moving on or the fact that you’re still living in the past? Remember, that every day you choose what you hold on to and it is in your hands to let it go and take the flight of pure freedom.
Also check out: How to Handle Frustration like a Pro